Why do so many incompetent men/women become leaders? )_how to fix them…yes this indeed the title of the book (Tomas Chamorro) that took my attention and the gist of the fixing is how to spot narcissism and psychopathy in workplace from this book, some excerpts below:
Why Bad Guys Win?
“He is a dreadful manager,” said a worker. “I have found it impossible to work for him . Very often, when told a idea, he will immediately attack it and say it is worth- less or even stupid, and tell you that it was a waste of tune to work on it. This alone is bad management, but if the idea is a good one he will soon be telling people about it as though it was his own.” Few people would like the idea of working for such a boss. And even fewer would expect a boss like that to be held up as one of the best business leaders of all time. But remarkably, the quote describes none other than Steve Jobs, the founder of one of the most successful companies in history. (The quote comes from Jef Raskin, who led the design of the original Mac computer.) Apple has just become the first trillion-dollar company in US history, even though it has not released a blockbuster product since Jobs’s death in 2011.
The Jobs paradox kept many puzzled, in part because it fits with a familiar archetype: exacting, visionary perfectionist who is turbocharged by unstoppable force of a gargantuan ego. unveilings, his stark uniform of black turtlenecks, and his megalomaniac mission, Jobs seemed to present a model for ambitious leaders to follow. It has even been said that he was capable of creating a cultish reality distortion when he talked about Apple products, convincing employees, investors, and suppliers that anything was possible. As we do with many tormented artists, we tend to see Jobs’s personality quirks as inseparable from his genius.
In reality, few leaders succeed when they are as difficult and badly behaved as Jobs was. A self-made billionaire with a flawed personality succeeds despite his or her character defects, not because of them. What makes the Jobs story a true exception is not only that he was hired back as Apple CEO—after being fired from his own company—but also that he achieved such extraordinary levels of success. As much as his fans would like to attribute Jobs’s unrivaled success to his eccentric and uncompromising personality, many narcissistic leaders have no problem distorting reality or coming up with colossal ideas or megalomaniac visions for the future. Their main problem is that they are not Steve Jobs, and without his talents, their delusions of grandeur will never become the next Apple. We have, alas, a tendency to generalize from unrepresentative examples, mostly because they are so memorable. Einstein’s lack of brilliance in his early years at school does not imply that bad grades will help you win a Nobel prize. Likewise, John Coltrane’s musical genius did not result from his heroin addiction—his talent somehow managed to survive the heroin. The only advantage of a difficult personality is that it may make a person unfit for traditional employment and can consequently propel them to launch their own business out of sheer necessity, if not revenge. But there is a big gap between being a mega-successful entrepreneur and being unemployable, and that gap is a function of talent rather than personality.
Many obnoxious leaders manage not only to remain employed but also to attain impressive levels of personal career success, despite their toxic personalities. To this end, this chapter explores the relationship between leadership and the two best-known examples of such toxic traits: narcissism and psychopathy. Looking at these two character traits will allow us to examine problematic leadership in more depth than we could by just talking about difficult bosses in general.
Spotting Narcissism
What do we mean when we say that someone is narcissistic? Primarily, narcissism involves an unrealistic sense of grandiosity and superiority, manifested in the form of vanity, self-admiration, and delusions of talent. Yet underlying this apparent superiority complex is often an unstable self- concept: because narcissists’ self-esteem is high but fragile, they often crave validation and recognition from others.
This craving is hardly surprising: if you are constantly showing off, you are probably desperate for others’ admiration. Such inner insecurity is rarely found in naturally humble people. Second, narcissists tend to be self-centered. They are less interested in others and have deficits in empathy, the ability to feel what others are feeling. For this reason, narcissists are rarely found displaying any genuine consideration for people other than themselves. A third defining feature of narcissism concerns high levels of entitlement. Narcissists commonly behave as if they deserve certain privileges or enjoy higher status than their peers enjoy. Examples abound: “Do I really need to apply for a promotion?” “Why didn’t I get a bigger bonus?” “Do I have to wait in line?” Such entitlements may justify narcissists’ exploitative behaviors at work and elsewhere. When you think you are better than others, you perceive unfairness where there is none and behave in demeaning and condescending ways toward people.
For decades, psychologists have devised and tested different tools for detecting narcissism. The most common method is self-report questionnaires, which simply provide respondents with a list of statements relating to their personal habits, preferences, or dispositions. Examples of these statements are “I am a natural leader” and “I am more talented than most of the people I know.” And if you think that this method is too transparent to work, you are wrong. A recent study led by Sara Konrath of Indiana University showed that you can spot whether someone is a narcissist “To what extent do you agree with with a single question, this statement: ‘I am a narcissist.’ Note: The word ‘narcissist’ means egotistical, self-focused, and vain.
Participants then answered the question on a scale of 1 (not very true of me) to 7 (very true of me). To the researchers’ surprise, narcissistic individuals were quite happy to con- fess to being narcissistic, and the single question captured people’s narcissism with an accuracy comparable to longer, well-established tests, which the researchers demonstrated in eleven studies. Narcissism was easily detected by the single question because narcissists are not only aware of their extraordinary self-love, but also proud of it, for they truly love loving themselves, unashamedly.
Nonetheless, various less transparent methods are also available to detect narcissism. For example, executives’ narcissism can be inferred from the size and attractiveness of their corporate profile picture, the number of times they are mentioned in their organizations’ brochures and press releases, and the frequency with which they use the word I and other self-referential pronouns.5 For CEOs, their narcissism can also be inferred from their compensation: the bigger their egos, the bigger the gap between their salaries and those of everyone else in their organizations!6 More recently, several studies have shown that you can detect narcissism from a person’s digital footprint. For example, sexier, more attractive, self- promoting Facebook pictures and, of course, an excess of selfies, all suggest narcissism.
Spotting Psychopathy
Let us now turn our attention to the other major dark-side trait. Psychopathy is often discussed in connection with leadership, particularly when it comes to famous political and business leaders. Unlike narcissism, which is wide- spread, psychopathy is rare. And yet few toxic character traits have attracted as much public fascination and media attention as psychopathy has—even though only about 1 percent of the general population is thought to have psychopathic tendencies. Perhaps part of our obsession with psychopaths stems from the disproportionate rate at which they seem to succeed. Professor Robert Hare, a pioneer in the field of criminal psychology and coauthor of the influential book Snakes in Suits, famously noted that “not all psychopaths are in prison; some are in the boardroom.” According to estimates he reports in a subsequent study, there are three times as many psychopaths in management roles than in the overall population. More recently, a much higher figure of around 20 percent (one in five) has been reported for another US corporate sample. This large range in variability reflects how people measure psychopathy, but psychopathy levels do increase with levels of career success.
So, what makes someone psychopathic? The first salient feature is a lack of moral inhibition, which at an extreme is manifested in the form of strong antisocial tendencies and an intense desire to break the rules, even just for the sake of doing so. And when psychopaths do break the rules, they feel no guilt or remorse to avoid a repeat of events. people with psychopathic tendencies are also more prone to making reckless behavioral choices. For instance, psychopaths are more likely to drink, smoke, take drugs, and have promiscuous sexual relations and extramarital affairs. To be clear, not all adrenaline junkies are psychopathic, but the vast majority of psychopathic individuals are thrill seekers, and their reduced concern for danger will put them and others at risk. A third defining feature of psychopaths is their lack of empathy. They don’t care about what others are thinking or feeling, despite being able to understand those feelings.24 As a result, psychopaths are known for their cold dispositions. The absence of empathy is probably a major cause for their lack of moral constraints; it’s obviously much harder to behave in prosocial ways when you don’t care about people.
Unsurprisingly for a trait once described as “the mask of sanity,” psychopathy is not easily detected by laypeople.39 For this reason, you want to be alert to the potential risks of basing hiring decisions on short-term interactions with candidates. In fact, given their deceptive nature, fearless attitude, short-term likability, and skilled impression management, you can expect psychopaths to perform quite well during job interviews.40 Yet, just as you wouldn’t marry someone after only a first date, you should not select some- one for a leadership job solely because of the person’s inter- view performance—which is exactly that, a performance. Psychopaths are hard to detect, but you can simultaneously evaluate a leader’s psychopathy and predict its effects on his or her subordinates. How? You can simply ask the leader’s subordinates to rate their boss on critical indicators of psychopathy In one study, for example, employees were asked to rate their bosses on various personality aspects, such as “can make a joke out of anyone,” ‘enjoys being disruptive,” and “is not sincere.
Scientist have developed concise measures of psychopathy, such as the Short Dark Triad assessment.42 With just fifteen self-report statements, you can get a good sense of an individual’s psychopathy level. Here are some of those statements:
I am a thrill seeker.
I like to get revenge on authorities.
I never feel guilty
People who mess with me always regret it.
Of course, test takers can certainly fake their answers by portraying themselves in a less psychopathic way and by presenting a much more prosocial and conformist aspect of their personality. But such misrepresentation doesn’t happen enough to invalidate this test. Rather, people with psychopathic tendencies seem proud to answer honestly or at least are too defiant to hide their views, perhaps because they have little guilt about their personality or care little about what others make of them. their psychopathic inclinations. For example, a study found that the number of selfies people post on social media reliably indicates their psychopathy level. Psychopathy can also be detected in language, as psychopathic individuals speak and write in a more dominant and coercive way and express more aggression and irritability. For instance, the tendency to swear is a consistent indicator of higher psychopathy. Another linguistic feature associated with psychopathy is the proclivity to talk about power, money, sex, and physical needs, whereas lower-psychopathy individuals tend to talk more about family, friends, and spirituality. In short, we have numerous intuitive signals to detect people with psychopathic tendencies.