How to “Slow Up” – ways to calm mind, relax body and inspire spirit

Pamela Allardice

  Connect Create Grow Move Nourish  
spirit   germinate   multiply   kick   food   born


Connect:  ’Study nature, love nature, stay close to nature. It’ll never fail you’ – Frank Lloyd Wright

  • Remedy for lonely & unhappy souls – be quiet, alone with heavens, nature & god.
  • Shakespeare says – Quality of mercy is not strained, it is twice blessed. It blesseth him that gives and him that takes – hence be a volunteer
  • Wake gently, see the light, take citrus shower, greet the day, go for a walk with the child & be very quiet

Create: ‘Wise is the man who has not lost his child’s heart’ – Confucius

  • Doing something creative & enjoyable is a shortcut to feeling calm & leave you uplifted and ‘juiced’
  • Creativity is all about what you choose not to do – drifting around shopping complex, playing video games & trawling gossip magazines for teh latest on Paris Hilton may seem restful and pleasant but in fact they’re just numbing you.
  • Go fly a kite – I saw you toss a kite on high, and blow the birds about the sky – darting birds & gushing clouds – you’re connected
  • play in the sand
  • Invent a holiday

Grow: ‘Trust yourself, You know more than you do’ – Dr. Benjamin Spark

  • Your intuitive thoughts, feelings & dreams all promise fascinating insights into your habits, behavior & attitudes
  • Past experiences – unfaithful spouse or a miscarriage – color your reaction to current events & prevent dealing them. Knowing your prejudices & flaws and forgiving them can help recognize habitual responses and face up to things, move forward instead of backing off and running away
  • Bust Your Rut — ‘The one thing you think can’t change? that’s the thing you must change’ – Eleanor Roosevelt
  • Embrace Change
  • Notice little things
  • Nothing small is ever insignificant  – even the tiniest act of gratitude or pure thought is never wasted
  • Make ‘Before I die list’
  • Be mindful
  • Believe in something

Move: ‘Where does the body end and mind begin? where does the mind end and spirit begin? – BKS Iyengar

Nourish: ‘Let food be thy medicine’ – Hippocrates

  • Stock a healthy pantry
  • Make choices that help you cope
  • Eat seasonally
  • Choose organic
  • Nibble Nuts
  • Eat more onions
  • Focus on folate
  • Dip into yoghurt
  • Learn to love broccoli
  • Sample Soy
  • Snack Smarter

Bidding adieu to spectacular harbourfront view

It has been 7 months of work @ Keppel Bay Tower overlooking the scenic harbourfront cruise centre where ships dock & set sail. Spectacular view indeed as these majestic giants roll in discreetly and out with a pomp of sound. As sea travel dwindled and flying became defacto, ships morphed to cruise lines and made voyages even more a pleasurable sea escapade tempting a titanic voyage albeit more safely with tons of fun. I’m longing for one such trip but thwarted by the chancellor of exchequer in my family to a later time, so that kids get older to enjoy the once in a lifetime epic journey, as all would be part of the entourage.

Here are some the pics of the pleasure liners from my Sony Xperia:


First We Read, Then We Write – Emerson on the Creative Process

As I’m eager to write & try to write proper, I stumbled upon this book by Robert D. Richardson. These are what I liked the most out of the above book:

What Emerson Read:-
Epictetus, Montaigne, Shakespeare, Bacon, Solomon, Berkeley, Sharon Turner, Plutarch, Pluto,
What Emerson didn’t recommend:
Bancroft, Prescott, Motley, avoid all second hand borrowings; collections of _________, Beauties of ______


  1. Don’t omit that you meant to say
  2. Good writing and brilliant conversation are perpetual allegories
  3. all writing should be selection in order to drop every dead word
  4. Words must affirm themselves, not the grammar, verisimilitude and array of arguments
  5. All that can be thought can be written


Emerson was a prodigious, inveterate reader, a man in love with and addicted to books. Emerson noted that Coleridge has identified 4 types of readers

  1. Hourglass – gives back everything takes in
  2. Sponge – same as above, but little;e dirtier
  3. Jell-Bag – squeezes out the valuable and keeps the worthless
  4. Golconda – runs everything through a sieve, keeping only nuggets, as American miners call a “high-grader” —  a person who goes through a mine and pockets only the richest lumps of ore

Drugged with books for want of wisdom. When we read actively, we can profit from anything. A good head cannot read amiss. Read for facts and not by the bookful. You must know the ownership in facts.Creative reading and writing are inseparable. Reading is just a means, the end – the purpose was writing.

Keeping Journal

Voluminous journals are your savings bank. Keep a journal….for the habit of rendering account to yourself or yourself in some rigorous manner and at more certain intervals than mere conversation. What Emerson kept, and he recommended enthusiastically to others, were what used to call commonplace books, blank bound volumes in which one writes down vivid images, great descriptions, striking turns of phrase, ideas, high points from one’s life and reading – things one want to remember and hold on to. A common place book is not a diary, an appointment calendar or a record of one’s feelings. If your journal consists of the best moments of your life and reading, then rereading it will be like walking mountain trail that goes from peak to peak without intervening descent into the trough of routine. Just reading in such  journal of high points will tighten your strings and raise your pitch

Practical Hints

The best single bit of practical advice about writing Emerson ever gave  — best because it is a cry from the heart, because it focuses on attitude not aptitude, and because it is a stirring as a rebel yell – is this: “The way to write is to throw your body at the mark when your arrows are spent”. In writing casting a moment is of greatest importance and to keep it in its original form, uncontaminated by later improvements and subtleties and qualifications. Emerson emphasized this point with Cyrano de Bergerac flash: “Thre or four stubborn necessary words are the pith and fate of the business; all the rest is expatiating and qualifying; three or four real choices, acts of will of somebody, teh rest is circumstance, satellite and flourish”.


Nature is the vehicle of thought and in single, double and three fold degree

  1. Words are signs of natural facts
  2. Particular natural facts are symbols of particular spiritual facts
  3. Nature is the symbol of spirit

Every word which is used to express a moral or intellectual fact, if traced to its root, is found to be borrowed from some material appearance. Right means straight. Wrong means twisted. Spirit primarily means wind. Transgression means crossing the line.

“Universe is the extermination of the soul” said Emerson and this is literally true for the writer

The Language of the Street

Prefer the street language which the common folk understand and is spoken. Start your writing as if you’re lecturing.


Choosing words and using words are the central inescapable acts of writing. The laws of composition is as strict as those of sculpture and architecture. The control and placement of emphasis are partly a question of sentence mechanics and partly a matter of word choice. In good prose (says Schlegel) every word should be underlined….no italics in Pluto….In good writing every word means something. IN good writing word become one with things. Emerson seems to have followed one rule of thumb much of the time – it’s not explicitly stated anywhere – and that is: where you can, use words of monosyllable. Writers must add or subtract what they can, but they must save the intuition. For after all, Emerson insists, “Literature is a heap of nouns and verbs enclosing an intuition or two”.


Emerson liked sentences that had a little bite or pop, a flash-point, and he had several different ways of achieving this effect, which we may distinguish as the whip-crack, the back-flip, the brass ring hole in one) and the mouse trap.
In whip-crack sentence, it is the final word that makes the whole sentence snap. e.g. — “Every man is wanted, but no man is wanted much”
In back-flip, where the energy comes from a pat reversal“. e.g. –"Every hero becomes a bore at last” , “Nothing astonishes men so much as common sense and plain dealing”
Brass ring, e.g. — “All mankind love a lover”, “Hitch your wagon to a start”, “Things are in the saddle, / and ride mankind”
If you write a better book, or preach a better sermon, or build a better mousetrap than your neighbor, the world will make a beaten path to your door. The mousetrap sentence, usually baited with a Latinate abstraction, and usually sprung with plain Anglo-Saxon. e.g. — “A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds”, “An institution is the lengthened shadow of one man”, “Our chief want in life is somebody who shall make us do what we can”.

Art is the Path

The process of poetry also mimics process of nature. This expression or naming is not art, but a second nature, grown out of first, as a leaf out of tree. What we call nature is a self-regulated motion or change. Another aspect of nature is genius, which Emerson observes, “is the activity which repairs the decay of things”. His example – and it is surprising pre-Darwinian, anti-Malthusian one – is from nature, which, as he says,  “through all her kingdom insures herself”. Emerson gets specific, full of enthusiasm, sounds like Carl Sagan. “Nobody cares for planting the poor fungus; so she shakes down from the gills of one agarics [a gill bearing mushroom or toadstool] countless spores, any one of which, being preserved, transmits new billions of spores tomorrow or next day. The new agarics of this hour has a chance which the old one had not. This atom of seed is thrown into a new place, not subject to accidents which destroyed its parent two rods off”. As with the agarics, so with the humans. Nature “makes a man; and having brought him to ripe age, she will no longer run the risk of losing this wonder at a blow, but she detaches from him a new self, that the kind may be safe from accidents to which the individual is exposed”. As with agarics and human generations, so nature handles poet. So when the soul of the poet has come to ripeness of thought, she [Nature] detaches  and sends away from it poems or songs – a fearless, sleepless, deathless progeny, which is not exposed to the accidents of the weary kingdom of time.

Babylon Parable Rules to Get Rich

Money is plentiful for those who understand the simple rules of its acquisition

  1. Start thy purse to fattening
  2. Control thy expenditure
  3. Make thy gold multiply
  4. Gaurd thy treasures from loss
  5. Make of thy dwelling a profitable investment
  6. Insure a future income
  7. Increase thy ability to earn  — The Richest Man in Babylon

Some great sayings that caught me in this book:

  1. Better a little caution than a great regret
  2. We cannot afford to be without adequate protection
  3. Where the determination is, the way can be found

Five laws of gold

  1. Gold cometh gladly and in increasing quantity to any man who will put by not less than one-tenth of his earnings to create an estate for his future and that of his family
  2. Gold laboreth diligently and contentedly for teh wise owner who finds for it profitable employment, multiplying even as the flocks of the field
  3. Gold clingeth to the protection of the cautious owner who invests it under the advice of men wise in its handling
  4. Gold slipeth away from the man who invests it in businesses or purposes with which he is not familiar or which are not approved by those skilled in its keep
  5. Gold flees the man who would force it to impossible earnings or who followeth the alluring advise of tricksters and schemers or who trusts it to his own inexperience and romantic desires in investment

Ling Kee Soon….commoners are with great souls

First time I’m encountering demise of our team member working in customer project at Keppel. It was heart rending and shocking to hear that he has passed away. Fate is always senseless, merciless and came in the form an accident. JB is a place for rash & reckless driving spree with no respect for lives. And fate always waits for that opportunity to strike unawares and takes its priced catch of priceless life and happiness of their kith & kin in split seconds.
Life is indeterminate, his soul is priceless and fate is senseless, let me mourn for his loss. And I always think, life is like river water, where it starts where it ends, nobody knows not. In this short span of life, always be good and do good things as much as possible and never the other if not quit. My sincere condolences to his family of a young daughter of 6 months and wife.

Story of this heart rending demise:
I left 7:45pm from project site with a customary bye to team members. First time I’m hitting early to home after 2 months of hard work to meet deadlines. Guys – KS & A, left around 8pm. It was raining a bit heavily. Somehow KS decided to head home at JB where he met that fatal accident. I’m still awaiting further details. But something strange I noticed yesterday evening in him, he looked haggard, relatively too old and too quite. My guess was, he might be too tired. I never took that as a premonition. It wasn’t powerful enough to convey that message to alert him. Alas, life seems a reverie when lost, a riverine in reality, momentous every moment and need to endure its unknown fury & wrath sometimes. He may be a commoner but indeed a great & dignified soul that I’ve ever met. My hats off & sincere respect & regret on his untimely demise. These are the people who drive nations & society humbly, though their contributions and fame they hold are insignificant, after all life is well lived when you’re responsible, frugal, dear to family, humble, respectable, affable & merciful. Sometimes fame sweeps them to altar at the handiwork of that same fate. Nevertheless life is to be endured & enjoyed as it plays its musical ensemble sans an encore performance. I miss him as a good person and good friend.

My advice is to go through the 5 stages of grief to overcome this loss to their family

Communication Challenges & my Counsel

Off late was having a discussion with a friend of mine in client’s office. Gradually it shifted to general topic of communication challenges between dominant & fairer sex. Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon – who’s mightier, both. When both fight, it’s mayhem for rest of animal coterie. If the equation get’s imbalanced with other ingredients like OCD, chronic illnesses and unnamable odds, it’s hell of a situation to be in but there’s always a speck of light in the tunnel, patience & understanding. The twin brothers who always arrive late to the party of mayhem, melancholy and haplessness but their entrance concludes and reconciles mood, emotion and ego.

There’s no way to think that one is hapless at odds, there’s always options, especially when either sex in a relationship is on rage due to mood swings coupled with unnamable relapses, is to shut up, and understand instant depression’s ill effects. No arguments, as they escalate situation rather subsiding. Deeply understand that it’s an anomaly that takes time albeit sometimes grace to wither and back to normal. Patience is a spectacular antidote to handle this situation coupled with understanding that sustains it and not leading you to any untoward & regrettable reactions. A great life lesson in the making to make you good and further to it, make you a great person at all odds.

How does it sound? My friend quipped, well said but hard to follow, to which I said, practice and take it easy. It’s a journey you should never regret when you look back retrospectively at some point in life, which I’m sure everybody will do.

Startup Fever & Medications

Startup is a great adventure. As you know adventure is for the brave and maverick. But the question is on what to start that adventure? the quintessential question everybody has and don’t know how to solve? Well ideas are everywhere when you know how to sense a problem and attempt to solve it, that’s were ideas are born. The idea to succeed, ask yourself this question – is it a painkiller vitamin or happy pill? Vitamins are nice to haves, so they just don’t cut it in bad times, as people focus more on real pain points at any time. Happy pills don’t solve a problem but make you feel good, fun filled & entertained.

Wally’s Startup Law checklist is great starter to go through before you venture into a new startup

10 startups to avoid:

  1. Me-too startup
  2. Designed by committee startup
  3. The Port startup
  4. PR First startup
  5. Outsourced startup
  6. The By-the-Bootstraps startup
  7. “Only the genius could do it” startup
  8. “Only a few programmers do it” startup
  9. “Build to flip startup” startup
  10. “We can do it better than Microsoft” startup

Tools for startup

  1. Version Control – GitHub, Unfuddle, SourceGear Valut
  2. Development Process – Accunote, Scrum’d
  3. Productivity – Productivity Expert David Allen’s Website
  4. Defects Management – FogBuz
  5. Get Technical Help –

Customer / Beta Tester Feedback

  2. Polldaddy,com
  3. CrazyEgg
  4. Uservoice
  5. GetSatisfaction

Looking Good / Video

  1. 99 Designs

Testing Your Site

  1. BrowserShots
  2. BrowserMob

Making Money

  1. PayPal
  2. AvanGate
  3. FastSpring
  4. iPortis
  5. Zuora
  6. TrialPay


  1. iGoogle
  3. tweetgrid

Back Type

  1. Google Reader & Post Rank
  2. FriendFeed

Startup Blogs

  1. TechCrunch
  2. Engadget
  3. techmeme