Shine Practices : Remedy for Anger

Part 2

Remedy for Anger: Concentration on compassion and loving-kindness

The most effective way to remedy anger is to cultivate loving-kindness and compassion. In order to cultivate compassion. you must concentrate on the suffering that permeates the minds of all sentient beings. There are three types of suffering that exist in the minds of all sentient beings: suffering, sadness, and disappointment. Suffering mind is the mind that is constantly suffering from one thing or another. This can be caused by physical pain, for example. A sad mind is principally caused by thinking in a particular way: what you needed did not happen, what you did not need happened, etc. Anything that contributes to sadness and depression is part of the sad mind. Unlike suffering and sadness that come from the inside, disappointment comes from the outside. Whoever and whatever hurts you or harms you, disappoints you. That is disappointment. First think about these three kinds of suffering that afflict the mind. Now think about how others suffer from these three types of suffering. First concentrate on the tiniest creatures—ants, earthworms, etc. Think about how each and every individual ant has a mind, and how every mind. no matter how small, is afflicted by these three kinds of suffering. Try to really feel how they feel their suffering. Now gradually consider bigger and bigger sentient beings: dogs, cows, etc. concentrating on how each living creature has a mind, that mind is afflicted by three kinds of suffering, and try to feel their pain. This continues up until you consider the minds of humans. Feeling how others feel this constant pain, just like you, you can really experience their pain. Feeling their pain as strongly as your own, you now cultivate the wish that all sentient beings should be free from these three types of suffering. Now consider the nature of this suffering, what is it? Where does it come from? Think about where suffering occurs: in the mind. Suffering permeates every moment of mind, every moment of mind carries sadness, disappointment, and subtle suffering. This is the real truth of the first noble truth: there is suffering. The mind never has a moment of peace. Now consider how if there is no suffering in an individual’s mind, there is in fact no suffering at all. So what is mind? Investigate it closely and you will see that every moment of mind is impermanent, not solid or lasting. Moment to moment it changes, without a single, solid essence underlying it. Through this sincere investigation, you will discover that mind is in fact empty. that underlying it there is no such thing as a self. So in fact it is the mistaken belief in a self, the mistaken belief in the permanence of the mind, that underlies the experience of each of these three kinds of suffering. Now with the understanding that all beings—including yourself—suffer equally, and with the understanding that there is no self to suffer, that mind is empty, raise up the intense desire that all beings be freed from their suffering. Wishing that they be free from suffering is compassion. After you have generated the sincere wish that all beings be free from suffering, cultivate an equally intense wish for all sentient beings to experience happiness. Do this by calling to mind the fact that each living being has the same desire for happiness as you do, and then concentrate on generating the profound wish that every single sentient being experience true joy. That is loving-kindness. This concentration is limitlessly meritorious. It produces limitless merit. This meditation is something you can practice for weeks, until you can comfortably and smoothly concentrate the moment you sit down for meditation: all beings suffer exactly as I do: suffering is in the mind; each moment of mind does not exist; the mindstream is therefore empty and there is nothing to cling to; may all beings realize this and be free from suffering. All beings wish for happiness exactly as I do; may all beings experience true joy.


An Introspection Causative of Anger

Anger is perhaps an acronym for Atrocious Negative Gesticulatory Emotions Recurring. In anger, man’s entropy peaks out bursting waves of negative energy in all planes – physical, psychic and auric, piercing the surroundings near or far. This energy wreaks havoc and takes its toll, first and foremost the source and then the receiver. The irony is, receiver perceives and picks this negative avalanche first to summon all he could to deflect, dispose, smoothen and endure it. Since he has acted on it quickly and used all possible ways to manage it, he is devoid of long term repercussions. On the contrary, the originator even though being the source whose nerves overworked to unleash this force gets weakened with wear and tear not immediately, but it keeps accruing until yields at a point where its weight finally tears the foundation. Hence most of the anger-handicapped have nerve related debilitations or associated complications in due course of life.

There can be no man on earth ever not being angry. But the level of anger makes the difference of how you’ll be perceived by society. Anger has solicited extensive treatment from religious to self-help experts since day immemorial. But handling it is an education in progress for every man. In our lifetime, everyone has opportunity to practice it to lessen it and in rare cases totally eliminate it.

Anger happens due to one or all of below:

  • disregard expectations
  • crossover permissibility
  • breach agreements
  • perform unacceptably
  • unmindful or external/unknown causations

In domestic argument, you should restrain until heat subsides, if not your point dissipates in heat – delay is art and science that has to be practiced at all times. Another important mistake in arguments is whatever said can never be retracted, and due to this kingdoms, fiefdoms, families and corporations have perished simply as one carries grudge of hurtful words uttered. Words have the ultimate power than deeds, as our internal words drives us outwardly so does outwardly words we hear (to internalize it) will drive our reactionary response. As we draw our response to words and tones, so does our counterparts, hence beware of its positive and detrimental effects.

In professional situation, it has an hierarchical angle, use with care when applied, to be taken with caution from higher authority and resisted deftly from lower up and in any case not losing composure or calm. This indicates your stealth strength and exposure quotient and hence the inherent weakens of your foundation. The practice to tackle anger and not being angry yourself becomes clear when your conviction and drive are in synch with the purpose of your individuality and institution you serve.

But before anger being used as a response, we should endeavor to exhaust all possible avenues to rectify the situation before which anger should be used a ‘snake hisses’ to ward of threat and to retain its prominence without venom being spilled, so should the anger be, a show of unpleasantness more subtly only for the breaches and not on the individuals. All should earnestly practice to master it slowly but surely – if we need to transcend anger altogether. Magnanimity, resourcefulness, compassion combined with yoga and breathing exercises based on foundations of rationality and spirituality can shape every individual and community he belongs to be full of tolerance and equity.