Book by Libby Gill was wonderful and a timed one. Teaches the techniques to escape out of rut and start anew no matter your apprehensions, fears and shortcomings. An energy booster for the likes who think they’re stuck or even unstuck, works both ways to lift you to new vistas and encourage risk taking using “Clarify, Simplify and Execute” mantra.
1. Clarify (the fear): What does this fear of changing jobs remind of me
2. Simplify (the memory): What exactly were the circumstances of that negative experience?
3. Execute (the change): What behavioral changes can I put in place to lessen or alleviate this fear?
Defeating the Immediate Negative Response
Think of positive risks that sound appealing or enriching. Include different types of risks representing physical, social and intellectual events or activities
If fear is holding you back – ask yourself these challenge questions: What’s the worst that could happen? how likely is that worst-case scenario? how well could you handle it?
Finally, add some accountability factors. When, where and with whom will you commit to taking this risk? Put it on your calendar!
According to Dr. Snyder, there are three primary types of excuses:
1. Denial of responsibility: I barely brushed that parked car, my wife must have caused the dent in the fender.
2. Minimizing the goal or “It’s not that bad” thinking: Sure, I went off my diet, but I only had one piece of cake and a scoop or two of ice-cream.
3. Extenuating circumstances: If my parents hadn’t put so much pressure on me, I wouldn’t have flunked the test
The best antidote suggested is hope therapy. He defined as hope as a clear conceptualization of goals where one is able to create pathways to reaching those goals, as well as to sustain the mental energy and motivation to travel the pathways effectively. He likened this approach to the old adage “Where there’s a will, there’s a way”.
There are actually 2 types of V8 moments – One comes from inside your brain while you’re consciously trying to work out a solution or find an answer. By shifting your focus, turning thoughts inward and shutting out distractions, you may be able to prepare your brain for those priceless V8 moments. Second type comes from the outside, when someone or something introduces new and possibly unexpected information. Like that photo from your high school reunion when you realize you’re the one looks older and heavier than your former classmates.