Stuck and Unstuck

Book by Libby Gill was wonderful and a timed one. Teaches the techniques to escape out of rut and start anew no matter your apprehensions, fears and shortcomings. An energy booster for the likes who think they’re stuck or even unstuck, works both ways to lift you to new vistas and encourage risk taking using “Clarify, Simplify and Execute” mantra.

1.    Clarify (the fear): What does this fear of changing jobs remind of me

2.    Simplify (the memory): What exactly were the circumstances of that negative experience?

3.    Execute (the change): What behavioral changes can I put in place to lessen or alleviate this fear?
Defeating the Immediate Negative Response

Think of positive risks that sound appealing or enriching. Include different types of risks representing physical, social and intellectual events or activities

If fear is holding you back – ask yourself these challenge questions: What’s the worst that could happen? how likely is that worst-case scenario? how well could you handle it?

Finally, add some accountability factors. When, where and with whom will you commit to taking this risk? Put it on your calendar!


Excuse Making
According to Dr. Snyder, there are three primary types of excuses:

1.    Denial of responsibility: I barely brushed that parked car, my wife must have caused the dent in the fender.

2.    Minimizing the goal or “It’s not that bad” thinking: Sure, I went off my diet, but I only had one piece of cake and a scoop or two of ice-cream.

3.    Extenuating circumstances: If my parents hadn’t put so much pressure on me, I wouldn’t have flunked the test

The best antidote suggested is hope therapy. He defined as hope as a clear conceptualization of goals where one is able to create pathways to reaching those goals, as well as to sustain the mental energy and motivation to travel the pathways effectively. He likened this approach to the old adage “Where there’s a will, there’s a way”.

There are actually 2 types of V8 moments – One comes from inside your brain while you’re consciously trying to work out a solution or find an answer. By shifting your focus, turning thoughts inward and shutting out distractions, you may be able to prepare your brain for those priceless V8 moments.  Second type comes from the outside, when someone or something introduces new and possibly unexpected information. Like that photo from your high school reunion when you realize you’re the one looks older and heavier than your former classmates.



The Sage’s Tao Te Ching

The ancient advice for second half of life by William Martin. Fantastic interpretations of Lao Tzu’s words, those that I loved reading are given here. They are very similar to South Indian Guru’s teachings like Ramanar, Vallalar of recent past and Thiruvalluvar of Lao Tzu’s time. Also this teaching is very quintessential as Bhagavad Gita too.

We’re free at last:
Growing older brings detachment
from temporary things.
But the more detached we become,
the more passionate we live.
We even become detached from ourselves,
and enjoy ourselves more than ever.

What does a sage look like|
What does a sage look like?
Moving with the grace of a deer
stepping through the meadow;
Alert to everything around,
never lost in the swamp of thoughts
Always polite and generous,
never cynical or cranky;
Adaptable and flexible,
never rigid or stubborn;
Accepting of everyone,
rejecting no one.

We are a river
Our life has not been an ascent
up on one side of a mountain and down the other
We did not reach a peak,
only to decline and die.
We have been as drops of water,
born in ocean and sprinkled on the earth
in a gentle rain.
We become a spring,
and then a stream,
and finally a river flowing deeper and stronger,
nourishing all it touches
as it nears its home once again.

The Sage no longer goes to war
The sage no longer goes to war
Athletics are for play and fun
instead of winning or losing
Sexuality is for ecstasy and love
rather than for conquest and self indulgence
Economics are for peace and justice
rather than mindless accumulation.
Relationships are vehicles for compassion
rather than struggles between egos

Ready to receive
Fear of aging has its roots
in fear of losing possessions, friends
and control of life.
It might be wise to give these away
and so no longer worry about their loss

Without Resistance
Resistance is the opponent of the sage
Resistance in mind
allows no new thinking.
Resistance of body
brings stiffness and disease.
Resistance in spirit
makes a sorrow of life and death
Without resistance
the sage welcomes life
and death as one
Without resistance
action and rest flow together
and life becomes full of joy.

We’re becoming Embracers of Life
The sage accomplishes much
by expecting nothing particular.
People are just people,
events are just events,
life is just life
and death is just death.
The sage embraces
people, events, life and death

Great collection of Inspirations–Sorted

Stuck Happens

v  Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm – Winston Churchill

v  There is no higher god than truth – Mahatma Gandhi

This is your brain on fear

v  Nothing in life is to be feared. It’s only to be understood – Marie Curie

v  Keep your fears to yourself but share your courage with others – Robert Louis Stevenson

Defeating the Immediate Negative Response

v  Become a possibiltarian – Norman Vincent Peale

v  If you aren’t fired with enthusiasm, you will fired with enthusiasm – Vincent Lombardi

v  I don’t think of all misery, but of beauty that remains – Anne Frank

v  It’s the stasis that kills you in the end, not ambition – Bono

v  The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes – William James

Is your stress keeping you stuck?

v  Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are – Chinese proverb

v  Stress is nothing more than a socially acceptable form of mental illness – Richard Carlson

Developing your risk hierarchy

v  Action is eloquence – Shakespeare

v  Only those who risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go – T.S. Elliot

v  Live to the point of tears – Albert Camus

Avoiding Limiters and embracing Liberators

v  Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on Earth – Muhammad Ali

v  In giving you are throwing a bridge across chasm of your solitude – Antonie de Saint-Expury

v  Misery is a communicable disease – Martha Graham

Risks of Heart

v  Love is an act of endless forgiveness – Peter Ustinov

v  Assumptions are termites of relationships – Henry Winkler

v  At the touch of love, everyone becomes a poet – Plato

v  The Eskimos had 52b names for snow because it was important to them, there ought to as many for love – Margaret Atwood

Mind over money

v  There are people who have money and people who are rich – Coco Chanel

v  We can tell our values by looking at our checkbook stubs – Gloria Steinem

v  A big part of financial freedom is having your heart and mind free from worry about what-ifs of life – Suze Orman

v  I’d like to live like a poor man with lots of money – Pablo Picasso

Your Health Unstuck

v  He who has health has hope and he who has hope has everything – Arab proverb

v  The greatest wealth is health – Virgil

v  Life itself is the proper binge – Julia Child

Creating your WoW career

v  All good businesses are personal. The best businesses are very personal – Mark Cuban

v  Hire character than skill – Peter Schulz

v  We do no great things, only small things with great love – Mother Theresa

Bundles of Beginnings

v  I like  a state of continual becoming, with a goal in front and not behind – George Bernard Shaw

v  Never mistake motion for action – Ernest Hemingway

v  If we’re headed in the right direction, all we have to do is keep walking – Buddhist proverb