After much reflection and soul searching, my friend took a few resolutions in his dealing with all including kith & kin, which I envy to take on myself:
Always a bit easy with strangers, friends and professional circle but with kith & kin – a daunting task, as we take it for granted or the other party may do, hence the resolution is even if intimidated, incensed, inflamed, smacked down never slip your tongue – but maintain that cool, calm and collective repose that brings and keeps you good. Benjamin Franklin’s advice on this is surefire way to follow.
Harp not on old invectives:
No matter what, any invectives directed against you were either intentional or situational or predestined, don’t revert to them by referring them in retrospect in your conversations with them – they serve no purpose but create ice rather than break it. Do forgive and also try to forget as much as possible.
They drive you and provide clarity and purpose when in doubt, torpor and distress.
Persuade rather than coerce:
In every occasion, follow persuasion rather than coercion, because by appealing to logos, ethos and pathos, you achieve more than forcing anybody to do what you want them do.
Not all can be solved by above principles and at times being assertive is inevitable when line is crossed but conduct it within the constitution & apply moderation. Correct only the qualities that created the rift and not at individual’s expense but at his incorrigible behavior that created mayhem – this needs to be fully articulated at an opportune time and in an understanding mood.
Reconcile with alertness:
Every relationship needs constant additive to sustain but some ends in negative spiral beyond resurrection. To those, apply common good and if opportunities present, attempt reconciliation and if it turns to old ways, apply clear communication and in worst cases, disengage to avoid deterioration and iterate.
Times too get bad, but work hard, it pays and be optimistic and explore new vistas in physical, monetary and spiritual realm – constant change is the norm and embrace it.
Overall to sum up:
- Read philosophy to keep mentally fit
- Do exercises & eat less/necessary to keep physically fit
- Practice austerity and diversify to keep financially fit
- Attempt & learn new things to keep you creatively fit
- 4 fits to keep you fits-free.